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    Stop the Silence

    Stop the Silence at stopthesilence.org is helping to establish and promote Lamplighter survivor groups in collaboration with The Lamplighter Movement.

     

    The Lamplighter Movement salutes the work of
    Ark of Hope and their statistics

    Sexual Abuse

    • Child rape occurs every two minutes
    • 1 in 3 girls will be sexually molested before the age 17
    • 1 in 6 boys will be sexually molested before the age 17 (1 in 5 in Canada)
    • A sex offender will molest an average of 120 victims, most of whom do not report it
    • 90% of molesters abuse children they know
    • Oftentimes, a sexually abused child is abused in other ways

    Overall U.S. child abuse statistics

    • Every 10 seconds a child is abused or raped
    • 3.3 million child abuse reports in 2010
    • For every report 2 more go unreported = many millions abused annually
    • 61,000 reports to Child Protective services per week = 6 per minute
    • Of 1.5 million runaways 85% are fleeing some form of abuse
    • Only 10% of abusers do not know their abuser well
    • Abuse victims = about 48% male, 52% female
    • Every race and religion sees child abuse

     

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    12 Comments

    1. Tresha Smith
      September 28, 2020 at 9:14 am

      Hello!

      I’d like to talk to someone about the resources listed on your website.

      Thanks so much!

      Reply
      • Marjorie McKinnon
        October 4, 2020 at 11:35 pm

        What is it you want to know. Send me an email. If you are wanting to add one we have so many already that I’m not adding any more a the present time. Margie

        Reply
    2. Angela
      June 2, 2020 at 6:43 am

      I’m a survivor of sexual, physical, mental abuse. Later on self-destruction through Toxic Abuses. Much older now, & I know the personal pain that abuse causes in life. It will completely change a child, who they are, & yet to become. Any abuse of any kind changes a person completely . I just avoided dealing with it directly for many years. I recently started turning those trauma’s into knowledge for empowerment. I am grateful to stand for and create change. Voices must be heard.

      Reply
      • Marjorie McKinnon
        June 7, 2020 at 12:39 am

        Hi Angela,
        I am so, so sorry for the pain you have gone through. Yes, it does change people and voices must be heard. Thank you for responding. Margie

        Reply
    3. Jen
      September 29, 2018 at 2:48 pm

      Hi.’I’m looking for a support group. I live in the northwest suburbs of Minneapolis- near Maple Grove. Is there a nearby group I can join? Please help!

      Reply
      • Marjorie McKinnon
        October 1, 2018 at 11:57 pm

        Hi Jen,
        Thank you for contacting the Lamplighters. Unfortunately we don’t have any chapters in Minneapolis only in Champlin, International Falls (where I was born) and Monticello. I have 2 other suggestions. Call your phone operator to find the phone # for the nearest Codependents Anonymous chapter. It’s a 12 step program that helped me a lot while I was in recovery. Attend at least six of their meetings. Something magical happens by then. You realize you are in the right place. I would also recommend looking on our website under the book pages for the page on Repair Your Life as well as the page on the program. There’s a lot of help available on my website so you might spend some time looking it over. The REPAIR program took me from being married to my 3rd abuser, suicidal, a sex addict and living part time in a women’s shelter to being the happiest person I know. So I would definitely encourage you to get the book and start working the program. It is now in its second edition with two new chapters and a Forward written by Dr. Vincent Felitti who co-authored the ACE Study. Type in “the ace study” under Google and it will take you to more than one site that explains what they are doing. I knew Dr. Felitti during his ground breaking work and it is phenomenal.

        If I can help in any other way please email me at margie@thelamplighters.org. I’m here to listen if you need to talk. Margie

        Reply
    4. Chris Daniels
      December 26, 2017 at 5:14 pm

      Hello again,

      I wanted to get back in touch and see if you were able to review the email I sent a couple weeks ago. Talk to you soon!

      Thanks again!

      Chris Daniels | Recovery Village Outreach

      Reply
    5. Chris Daniels
      December 18, 2017 at 3:17 pm

      Hello again,

      I wanted to get back in touch and see if you were able to review the email I sent last Wednesday.  Talk to you soon!

      Thanks again!

      Chris Daniels
      Recovery Village Outreach

      Reply
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      October 30, 2017 at 8:38 pm

      I am actually delighted to read this website posts which carries lots
      of useful facts, thanks for providing these statistics.

      Reply
    7. Liz
      August 17, 2017 at 4:53 pm

      I have seen posters occasionally in my area for a lamplighter group. At the library in Cottonwood, Az but there is no listing of it on your sight. Im wondering if you can find out for me if there is a group near me. Thanks.

      Reply
      • Marjorie McKinnon
        August 17, 2017 at 11:38 pm

        Hi Liz,

        I am so sorry but we no longer have a chapter in Cottonwood. I tried for years to get one together to meet at the library and it just wasn’t working. I finally decided that the library might need the space as all I was doing was sitting and waiting. I can’t remember over the years all the places where I had it posted so probably missed pulling some down.

        I have 2 other suggestions. Call your phone operator to find the phone # for the nearest Codependents Anonymous chapter. It’s a 12 step program that helped me a lot while I was in recovery. I would also recommend looking on our website under the book pages for the page on Repair Your Life as well as the page on the program. There’s a lot of help available on my website so you might spend some time looking it over. The REPAIR program took me from being married to my 3rd abuser, suicidal, a sex addict and living part time in a women’s shelter to being the happiest person I know. So I would definitely encourage you to get the book and start working the program. It is now in its second edition with two new chapters and a Forward written by Dr. Vincent Felitti who co-authored the ACE Study. Type in “the ace study” under Google and it will take you to more than one site that explains what they are doing. I knew Dr. Felitti during his ground breaking work and it is phenomenal.

        If you decide to enlist the aid of a therapist make sure they either have a history of child sexual abuse themselves or that they have been working in that field. You have the right to interview your potential therapist. I’m here to help you if you have any questions or need help in any way especially by telling your story. That, the lancing of the wound, is the first step towards wellness. A shared sorrow is a sorrow halved and a shared joy is a joy doubled.

        Again, I apologize for the confusion. Let me know if I can help in any other way.

        Margie

        Reply

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